Thursday, February 28, 2013

circle of life

I saw this on friend Bonnie's blog - the biodegradable urn for cremated ashes, with a tree seed inside. "When planted, the tree seed is nourished by and absorbs the nutrients from the ashes." 

I like this idea.

For as long as I can remember, I have wanted to be cremated when I die. Maybe it was the funerals attended as a young girl. But mostly I didn't want to take up 6 feet of good earth, what a waste of land. If indeed your spirit leaves your body at death and goes wherever it is headed, why save the empty shell as a shrine? I don't save egg shells or mayonnaise jars after I get the good out. But anyway, the above urn is just one of the many things you can do with the ashes.

Many years ago I made out my will with a local attorney. One of the first lines in a standard will form is, "I want to be buried in a Christian like manner." That is when I said, "But I don't want to be buried." She changed the line to cremation and advised me to go to the local funeral director and share my wishes with him, because as she said, the will won't be read until you are already planted.

Next stop, local funeral director, where I asked all kinds of questions about cremation etc., and was told that the body was transported to the crematory in Atlanta. There is a crematory closer, but it would involve crossing the state line into Tennessee, and the body would have to be embalmed first to cross the state line. Anyway, back at the crematory in Atlanta. After the cremation, the ashes would come back to the local funeral home in a cardboard box via UPS.

So those arrangements were made, but I never did decide what to do with the ashes. Doesn't really matter, once again the good part is gone, I don't save coffee grounds either. We have a friend whose ashes were scattered at her favorite place, at a certain castle in central Florida, and a cousin whose ashes were scattered in a nearby state park. I imagine neither of these acts are condoned by the property owners, but no harm was done and the evidence is probably long gone now, absorbed back into the earth.

This biodegradable urn is a nice idea, plant a tree, and at first I thought it would be a good idea for me. But don't go out and buy a special container, recycle an old McDonald's cup or something!  And then I remembered my bad luck with growing most anything, and figured the tree wouldn't even sprout, LOL. 

So back to the question, what to do with the ashes? We have lots of woods, mountains, anywhere would be fine, and of course there is always the final FLUSH!  To my kids, don't take it too serious, have fun with it, just remember I am watching…


Bonnie Jacobs said...

Susan, I left comments on both of my blogs, directing readers here to your thoughts on the subject:

Carrie said...

OMGah MOM! "Don't take it too serious .... just remember I am watching" ?!?! Kinda some mixed messages there :P

I like the tree planting idea :) Then we can shrine the tree ;P